How do you respond when someone says hurtful things?
Acknowledge your anger and hurt together.
To cope in a healthy way, acknowledge both these emotions together. Literally say to yourself, “I feel hurt and angry….” Acknowledging your specific, precise emotions is the first step of self-compassion. Acknowledging your anger can help you not personalize the comment.
Why do people say mean things?
One of the most common reasons for meanness is due to emotional reaction. In such situations the person may just be reacting without thinking through the impact of their reaction. Therefore, often their focus may not be for the purpose of hurting someone else although it can be.
Is it normal for people to say hurtful things when they argue?
No, it is not normal to say hurtful things in a relationship. Once or twice during an argument, something hurtful can slip out involuntarily. You or your partner might regret it instantly and ask for forgiveness. But saying hurtful things during all kinds of arguments is not normal at all.
Why do we say bad things when angry?
Originally Answered: Why do we say hurtful things when angry? Because we don’t pause between our negative thought and our anger (emotion). We allow our negative thought to immediately affect our emotional state, and then we act on that emotion. We never stop to think anywhere in this process.
Why do hurt people hurt people?
Their reactions stem from past experiences that led them to certain beliefs that they accepted as truth. They are actually just preconceived ideas projected onto others to protect their ego.
Why do I get so mean when I’m mad?
Common triggers for anger may include injustice, stress, financial issues, family or personal problems, traumatic events, or feeling unheard or undervalued.